It's Never Too Soon: A Low-Stress Program That Shows Parents How to Teach Good Behavior That Will Last a Lifetime

In her latest book, child psychologist Peters (Don't Be Afraid to Discipline) turns her attention to managing children ages six years and under. While serving up her familiar stance on discipline, Peters softens her tone a bit for the younger set. As in previous books, she urges parents to offer consequences that are immediate, important, predictable and calmly given. Though her behavior management system--much of which involves a simple smiley-face chart--can't effectively be implemented until a child is about three years old, she advocates the use of consistently applied structure much earlier (at nap, feeding, and bed times, for instance), and, unlike many other experts, advises the use of a reward system. Rewards, however, should be reasonable, practical and easy for parents to use, such as a board game played with a parent, a small treat, an extra book at bedtime or a poker chip that can later be traded for money or an activity. Peters's plan for these years is less convoluted than the poker-chip method she promotes for use with older kids, and she more readily accommodates for deviations here and there (e.g., an extra smiley face is allowed in certain circumstances). Also included are chapters on behavior management for developmental issues (such as sleep and meals), social issues (such as fears or self-esteem), socially inappropriate behaviors (biting, lying, etc.) and for kids with attention deficit disorder. (July)