cover image It's So Much Work to Be Your Friend: Helping the Child with Learning Disabilities Find Social Success

It's So Much Work to Be Your Friend: Helping the Child with Learning Disabilities Find Social Success

Richard Lavoie. Touchstone Books, $25 (394pp) ISBN 978-0-7432-5463-2

""Life without friends is a lonely and barren existence,"" but that's a common fate for children who fail to develop proper social skills, writes veteran special education teacher Lavoie in his insightful guidebook to helping children with learning disabilities overcome social skill deficits. Eschewing sink-or-swim and carrot-and-stick approaches, Lavoie stresses communication and patience for parents looking to guide their children through the maze of social interactions encountered daily, from arranging successful play dates and navigating the hidden curriculum of school, to language difficulties, social anxieties and family issues. Lavoie, who has taught and worked in the special education field for over 30 years, shows how to detect learning disabilities, discusses their impact on a child's social development and provides strategies (most notably his ""Social Skill Autopsy"") for implementing behavior change. Organized by the different types of social skills-those commonly used at home, at school and in the community-Lavoie's text is refreshingly free of jargon and is suitable for both spot- and cover-to-cover reading. Though aimed at parents of learning disabled children, this comprehensive guide will be handy for any parent whose child has trouble socializing at school or home.