Bully Nation: Why America’s Approach to Childhood Aggression Is Bad for Everyone

Child development expert Porter (Relating to Adolescents: Educators in a Teenage World) convincingly turns the antibullying boom on its head by suggesting that the popular methods and language used in preventing childhood aggression are making things worse, despite good intentions. By labeling children as bullies, we malign them rather than help them grow; just as importantly, she points out, by labeling children as victims, we undermine their authority to control their lives and chip away at their resilience. Porter uses compelling research as well as useful, pointed anecdotes to demonstrate that the modern approach to this age-old problem is not the right one. In place of destructive bully language, Porter presents the GRIT approach: a Growth mindset, Responding versus Reacting, Interventions (and knowing when to intervene), and Teaching. Porter’s proposals require educators and parents to use their “adult brains” to recognize the complexity of children’s interactions and to respond accordingly. The final chapter includes helpful “essential questions” to coach adults as they guide children through challenging situations. While the GRIT approach may not be as easy as using standard bully language or a zero tolerance approach, Porter makes a clear case for why it is a better way forward for creating resilient children and healthier school climates. (Mar.)