Positive Discipline Parenting Tools: The 49 Most Effective Methods to Stop Power Struggles, Build Communication, and Raise Empowered, Capable Kids

Nelsen (Positive Discipline for Teenagers) focuses this iteration of her Positive Discipline method on firsthand anecdotes of success, drawn from her own parenting, the experiences of other Positive Discipline trainers, and the experiences of two of her own adult children, coauthors Tamborski and Ainge. Tamborski’s stories cover the toddler and elementary school years, and Ainge’s stories cover the teenage years; both stay thankfully clear of analyzing their own upbringing in any detail. Nelsen’s methods are based on the ideas that punishment and reward are not effective and even logical consequences may not be helpful; that simultaneously kind and firm attention is critical; and that parents should offer encouragement rather than praise. The 49 techniques offered are specific, easy-to-follow methods for aligning parental responses to the way children think. Nelsen’s tone is that of a patient teacher, gentle but never coddling, and Tamborski and Ainge’s more conversational styles bring an “in the trenches” feel without falling into the self-deprecation so common in peer-focused parenting books. Those who learn by good example will find the mix of instruction and story a welcome guide in tough moments. (Nov.)