A Well-Trained Wife: My Escape from Christian Patriarchy

Levings debuts with a searing account of how she fled her abusive marriage and the fundamentalist theology in which it was rooted. Raised in a Southern Baptist church to believe she was destined to become a Christian wife and mother, the author met her future husband at 18 and married him a year later. She worked to accustom herself to his fits of rage, which worsened as he became interested in a strict Calvinist theology and began to physically abuse her. As the grim realities of their fundamentalist life set in (“No consent. No contraception. No choice”), she found solace in her children and the blog she began in the early aughts. Realizing that “I liked writer-Tia way more than church-Tia,” Levings sought to take control of her life, eventually leaving with her children in the middle of the night in 2007 and devoting herself to exposing the dangers of Christian fundamentalism. Levings’s visceral prose holds nothing back, and her efforts to let go of the patriarchal beliefs of her youth fascinate (after learning in therapy about the “fight-flight-freeze-fawn” response to trauma, she realized that fawning characterized her “entire childhood”: “It was in the tone of voice we were taught to use... our servant hearts”). This stands out among the rising tide of memoirs from those who’ve left the evangelical church. (Aug.)