The Great Belonging: How Loneliness Leads Us to Each Other

Donlon, host of the Hope for the Lonely podcast, examines loneliness through a Christian lens in her evocative debut. In explaining the connection between loneliness and belonging, Donlon notes, “We can inhabit a posture of curiosity when we recognize loneliness as part of the human condition. Loneliness, at its heart, is a longing for more closeness with God.” Donlon reflects on accepting loneliness “as a normal companion,” whether it is felt occasionally or frequently; details statistics about stigmas attached to expressing loneliness; and emphasizes being honest about one’s feelings: “admitting I struggle with loneliness, talking about it, and writing about it have helped me let go of shame.” She discusses examples of loneliness as it relates to questions of one’s purpose, the dissolution of a relationship, mental illness, grief, or loss of faith. Donlon also includes suggestions for transforming occasions of loneliness into opportunities for drawing closer to others and God. For instance, in her “Meditations for Belonging” section she provides meditations that will get readers in the right mindset for meeting with a new friend, visiting a museum, or taking a nature walk. When loneliness seems overwhelming, she reminds herself: “There’s grace to be lonely, to know it’s normal to be lonely.” Donlon’s comforting work will appeal to any Christian looking to stave off the negative aspects of isolation. (Nov.)