I Was Told There’d Be a Village: Transforming Motherhood Through the Power of Connection

Lamenting how a “hyper-individualist mindset” leaves parents overworked and overwhelmed, Wirt, founder of breastfeeding apparel company Latched Mama and a mother of six, debuts with an empathetic guide encouraging mothers to find support in communities. The first step toward connecting with others is putting oneself out there, Wirt contends, suggesting that readers might arrive early when picking kids up from sports practice or day care to chat with other parents. Wirt shares stories that illustrate the benefits of banding together, as when she describes how one woman overcame her shyness and joined a moms’ group that provided valuable advice on breastfeeding at the office and reassurance that she wasn’t the only one to sometimes lose her temper at her newborn’s incessant crying. Surveying how readers might show up for other mothers, Wirt proposes dropping off food, hosting group playdates, sharing advice, and giving away old toys or clothes, which will set a precedent and prompt other moms to help out in turn. Wirt makes clear that such practices are no substitute for affordable childcare and universal pre-K, but in the meantime, the compassionate advice will help lessen the stresses of motherhood. It’s a heartening take on the rewards of community. (Apr.)