Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: Step Step GT Help You Decide Whether Stay or Get Out Your Relationship

Trying to make the agonizing decision whether to get out of a troubled, potentially life-wrecking relationship is the specific ambivalence this book addresses. The reader is offered a focused way to deal with one critical issue at a time rather than sort endlessly through the whole messy bundle of emotional pros and cons. Kirshenbaum's expertise allows her to pinpoint the pertinent questions. The Boston psychotherapist, who does relationship counseling, offers a series of them, amplified with guidelines: ""Power people poison passion""; ""If your partner can't even see what it is about him that makes you want to get out, it's time to get out""; ""If it never was very good, it'll never be very good."" And threaded through the book, which is written in a sympathetic, chatty, accessible style, are validating anecdotes that dramatize how other people have experienced and responded to the same problems the reader is going through. (July)