Loving Your Child Is Not Enough

Samalin founded the Parent Guidance Workshops in New York City 10 years ago. With Jablow ( Cara: Growing Up with a Retarded Child, she presents here persuasive and readily accessible counseling based on workshop sessions with clients. Mothers and fathers record dialogues between them and their small children and bring the transcripts to Samalin for analysis. Readers will laugh, perhaps nervously, at examples of familiar aggravations. In one case study, Chip starts an argument with his mother, demanding that she be the one to dress him. She loses patience; the battle escalates. Soon parent and tot are ""discussing'' on the same level: his. Parents are advised how to talk to their children in tense situations, minor and major. The central idea is that they can discipline their youngsters effectively by first training themselves to think before reacting negatively to misbehavior. 20,000 first printing; first serial to Parents magazine; author tour. (March)