Fatherhood: A History of Love and Power

Fathers’ role in upholding the social order and their struggles with unruly sons are probed in this winsome and erudite study of patriarchy. CUNY historian Sedgwick (Coffeeland) offers biographical sketches of famous dads and their children, from an ancient Sumerian named Shuruppag, who wrote a querulous, plaintive advice-tablet to his son—“The instructions of an old man are precious: you should comply with them!”—to Bob Dylan, who stoked rebellion in young people yet himself became, Sedgwick notes, a doting, apolitical paterfamilias rather like his own middle-class father. Along the way Sedgwick explores Aristotle’s belief that the state rested on a foundation of fathers ruling over households, Thoreau’s longing to escape from his father’s Massachusetts pencil factory, and Charles Darwin’s rapt study of his 10 children for insights on how they inherited traits from him. Sedgwick teases out the contradictions between patriarchy as a doctrine of benevolent control and its reality as a form of constraint and domination that often breeds resistance. He plays on these ironies in elegant, evocative prose, as in his analysis of Sigmund Freud’s Oedipal complex (“From a child’s perspective, Sigmund Freud’s theories made it natural, even healthy, to despise your father. From a father’s perspective, Freud made it normal, even good, to be hated”). It’s a fresh and insightful meditation on the paternal dilemma. (May)